Ikea is harder than it looks

We have been having a devil of a time with the Ikea in a Box Kitchen. The boxes were delived on 3 pallets and I could not lift most of the boxes. I sweet talked the delivery guys to get them to move the boxes from 1 pallet into the outdoor screened room so it wouldn't be in the street (no room here for 3 pallets of boxes). The invoice sheet was several pages & they said we'd have 48 hours to verify we got what was on the invoice. I couldn't see all the labels & Reg had 3 days in a row of a lot of plumbing work so he wasn't able to do it. The next week when Tim came to install the 2 hardest cabinets for us he said we didn't have the right stuff and I took some things back to Ikea and bought different boxes back. Reg, on the week-end, just put most of the units together without labeling them as he went so we have no idea where the additional 3-6 boxes of parts go to which built frames. The "Build List" doesn't tell you which cabinet goes where and everything is in coded letters and numbers. The Kitchen Designer's design on the computer is not a match to what we got - plus I went from 30" to 39" cabinets at his suggestion without realizing that made extra weight ( we may use the words manufactured home but this is just a trailer with 2x2 walls) and that changes the distance between the wall cabinets and the base cabinets giving less counter space. He didn't tell us to leave room for the trim, or even that there was trim, so all the bar racks are too high to the ceiling. I really didn't know enough to be the person who placed the order and the designer (we paid $250 to IKEA for this service, they contact the service out - other people have gotten great help from thier designers but I had Great Spaces and I wouldn't recommend them to anyone who was a friend ) didn't support me as with any neccessary info so we are up a creek. No one told me about the trim piece that should go on the top of the wall cabinets and along the bottom. Oh gosh, I could keep going here but the basic thing is that this is a disaster and we have spent all this money and because they are halfway put together we can't get our money back we still have no kitchen and probably won't for a long time. Reg went to Ikea and they have a Kitchen Help guru who gave Reg a lot of additional info and said he will help (by phone) but everything has just stopped. I am pretty devastated.